David Merkur, nerdy Lothario tracks online dates on a spreadsheet

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Now that the overly detailed spreadsheet created by the man that works guy behind the spreadsheet is David Merkur, a 28 year-old associate.

My first thought after a friend forwarded me an article about the dating spreadsheet kept by a New York man was, “My spreadsheet is much better! But after several more people contacted me about the news item — including a former girlfriend who had no knowledge of my spreadsheet but apparently knows me all too well — I started to think that, more than just yet another Internet meme, such spreadsheets actually captured the zeitgeist of modern dating .

I, like David Merkur , work in finance and stare at Excel for 12 hours a day. For better or worse, those little Microsoft-created cells are how I organize my thoughts. Perhaps a writer would reflect on and track his life through a journal, or even fiction or poetry, but my medium is rows upon rows of data. And not just at work: I have spreadsheets to track my finances, the books I’ve read, the countries I’ve visited and which combinations of friends might enjoy a dinner party together — that would be the very useful “friend interaction matrix,” responsible for many a successful social gathering whose participants were brought together, unwittingly, by spreadsheet.

More to the point, online dating is a brutal game that happens to lend itself well to being systematized. For every 10 messages I send on a dating site, I only receive one or two replies. That’s despite the fact that my messages are well thought out, mention common interests and ask questions. Sometimes, I email a woman who seems a perfect match yet receive no response. Or, I finally meet one, but despite a great email exchange, chemistry lacks.

After a while, the whole experience begins to feel decidedly grim. If I managed to go on just one date per week, it would take me ages to actually find a serious girlfriend. So, to better those chances, I go on as many dates as my schedule will allow.